Don’t Over Think It, You’ve Got Guts

Photo of a street with two rows point in the opposite direction
Photo by Yeshi Kangrang on Unsplash

“Always, always trust your first gut instincts. If you feel something’s wrong, it usually is.”

Quote by unknown author

Right now at this very moment you may have to make a very important decision about something or someone. You’re not quite sure what is but there’s something about the situation that just doesn’t seem right.

Whether it’s taking a job, or going to an event, or not hanging out with that person who gives off a weird vibe or that you’re just not sure about, you start to think about your issue sometimes overthinking which causes stress and anxiety which doesn’t help you trust yourself.

I was faced with this challenge many times, but for example a recent event for me was whether or not to go to a job interview that I was just not feeling too certain about and that it was not feeling like the right fit for me. It wasn’t a being nervous thing or being scared about the job, it was more of a feeling that I got when I thought about it and how it made me feel about possibly working there.

It’s a large popular company that is very famous here in my town and would look great on my resume. But the feeling I got when I thought about the job, images kept popping up and red flags keep telling me that this is not what you should be doing. As glamorous as it seemed, the only thing that was attracting me to the position was the money. It was really good money.

I ended up going to the interview to see if what I am feeling is just thoughts and overthinking. Once I arrived and went on my way to the interview, I was not too excited to walk in the door, the parking lot area was filled with many cars and parking far didn’t appeal to me. Walking in the door of the building, people were dressed in corporate attire, very quiet int their work and not engaging with each other.

Once I met the person who was going to interview me, I got the vibe that she was a nice person and seemed interested in me and my experience. But when we walked in the room to interview, it felt like the interrogation room you see in police movies, just more brightly lighted and decorated with motivation signs, you usually see in businesses to keep employees feel like they are really doing something miraculous for the company.

After learning more about the job description from the interviewer, I also knew that the position was less attractive than what was posted on the job board. The duties she described seemed mundane and boring. Nothing really creative, although it claimed it was a “creative” position.

After the interview was over, I thanked the interviewer for her time and told her I would think about the position. In my gut feeling I knew she was going to call me back for a second interview. Low and behold a few days later she did, and I wasn’t excited. I knew my gut feeling was working in my favor, it knew that it wasn’t the right fit for me. I would have taken this job and lived with the regret of certain boredom while wearing uncomfortable business casual clothing.

You have built in mechanisms within you that are there working in your favor. Listen and trust yourself by quieting your mind and having a chat with your gut who is your soul’s best spokesperson.

To end this story, I enjoy the company I currently work for, it is much more creative and my version of business casual are wearing jeans and flip flops.

Have you ever experienced listening to your gut instinct about a situation over just relying on your thoughts? Leave a comment, I would enjoy learning about your experiences!

 

 

Short Story: Short Plane Rides and Interesting People

photography of aircraft wing
Photo by Bibhash Banerjee on Pexels.com

Last week on my flight to Southern California which is takes no more than an hour to fly, had me a little bummed because my flight was going to be packed like sardines and I was dreading who ever was going to sit next to me.  I usually sit in the window seat of a plane to look out of the window to help me actually feel like I’m not crowded in.

So a couple came in and sat down next to me, they were probably in their late 50’s early 60’s or so, no big deal. We all were sitting in the row in front of the emergency exit row and the flight attendant asked all who sat in that row if they would assist in case of an emergency. She was a nice pleasant woman, around the same age as the couple next to me. The husband of the woman who was sitting next to me started talking to the flight attendant in casual conversation. The woman at the same time was trying to get the attention of the husband on some kind of phone app she wanted to show him.

The husband wouldn’t stop talking to the flight attendant. Long story short the wife did not like that and yelled at him in front of everyone to stop talking to her. I felt embarrassed for the guy who afterwards didn’t speak much after that for the rest of the flight. I had the shade on my window down to block the sun until we had passed the sun’s pathway during flight.

I was ready to get some light so I kindly asked the woman next to me with a little hesitation if the light would bother her if I pulled up the shade. She turned around with the sweetest look on her face and said: “Oh no dear, you go right ahead. It doesn’t bother me.”

To my relief I smiled and said thanks, pulled up the shade and buried my head back into my phone.

On the next flight to return home. I actually got really lucky and sat by two lovely ladies who were so friendly and nice to talk to. They were in town for a convention and was excited to be in Vegas. It was great to be around their presence.

You know, now that I look at things, people are usually really happy when they come to Vegas. On that note, the nice thing about flying is if you do get lucky and you sit next to someone who is awesome to talk to, then you will have the quickest and happiest experience, which makes traveling worth while.

One thing that I am grateful for from the first flight is (and not that I promote drinking…ok maybe a little) the lady ordered a Bloody Mary, and she and everyone else was able to relax the rest of the flight.

Just a Note For Today

Photo of Sunset Park with trees, geese and early morning sunrise in the background
Photo taken at Sunset Park in Las Vegas, Nevada. Photography and graphics by Cynthia

Another week has begun as we are heading into it with our routines and obligations, remember to do the best you can, think positive and breathe!

You got this. Have a beautiful week!

Q: What is one small goal that you would like to accomplish this week? How do you plan to achieve it? Leave your responses in the comments.

My goal this week is to create a design of something every day. I plan to achieve it by taking an extra half hour everyday to make room to create.

 

Where’s Your at Peace Place?

My peaceful place is always near a body of water. The images in this post were taken today. Living in Vegas for over 4 years now, I try to give myself a retreat as often as possible. I’m am thankful that I have a understanding family that supports my needs for time alone.

The ocean has always been my place to seek peace and refuge when I need some time to think and explore creativity, when I lived in Southern California i would seek to be near it, even for a moment or two.

It’s very important to give yourself some time alone. You don’t have to take trips, or travel anywhere. Your solitude can come in the form of reading a good book in your room. Taking a stroll at your favorite park or retreats in a nice warm bath.

It also could be building wood furniture out in your garage, or knitting something for a loved one, watching a movie or taking a class. Your peaceful place can be anything and anywhere, it’s up to you!

When you need some time for yourself, where do you go? Where is at peace place? How has taking time for yourself helped you?

Long Time No See

Today I was inspired by people who I used to work with and haven’t seen in a few years. This was at a friend’s wedding reception and it was nice to see some people that I knew. I really didn’t realize how much time had passed since seeing them. And having them as your friend on Facebook is not the same. Social media gives the illusion of connection and togetherness but seeing these familiar faces in real life made me realize how blessed I am to know great people, and how wonderful it was to see them in person.

When looking at the bigger picture. The people we encounter over the years, you see growth in yourself. You see how far you’ve come along, and your peers as well. You genuinely care about all of their adventures, their hurdles, how they think and how they have lived so far. Its an awesome experience to re-live good memories and get to know the people you used to matter in your life.

I will plan to make an effort to reunite with old friends and even acquaintances for Real Face Time.

Have you ever called or text someone you haven’t spoke to in years, to see if they wanted to get together?

A Little Art, Allot of Feeling Good

3 Tulips one orange small, one blue medium, one red tall
“3 Tulips” painted with acrylic on canvas 2011

Painting is one of favorite things to do. It relaxes me, helps me focus and allows me to be creative without worrying what people think about my work. It’s my art it’s my expression!

Throw Back Thursday. This painting was done about 2011 and its acrylic on canvas. This was when my husband and I were living in California, I could paint outside and it was nice because we lived not to far from the bay and behind our apartments was a marsh that filled up with the bay water every afternoon. It was a beautiful site to see so many different bird species come out to feed on the fish that washed up.

I’n not sure why I painted tulips that day but it was nice for me. I gave this painting away as I did with most of them before moving to Nevada. These days I don’t paint as much due to job, family. But I do make the time!

What do you love to do that only matters to you? A little bit of happiness will do you allot of good!

 

 

 

A Quick Lesson From a Free Spirited Freelancer

So I have been at my current job for about 3 months now and I work with great people, each one has a unique talent and I am continuing learning something from them.

Just in the past 4 weeks I have been working along side a coworker from overseas we’ll call him Jim and he has been our design freelancer long before I cam aboard the company, so he was invited to come on a work Visa in the office and meet with us all.

Jim and I have been talking about life situations and the general stuff most freelance traveling types talk about…life. One day I asked him about living the way he does, works as a design freelancer, travels around to work on projects with various companies and has no general interest in working with the company other than to create great products and work on things that really matter to him

His mentality about how he lives his life made so much sense to me and more natural than what I have been spoon fed about how our society interprets living.

His current idea of success is living basic, not material, not living with an accumulation of stuff and material possessions.

Working to live and enjoy the life during his youth and not waiting to be older and retired to finally live.

Having a passion to explore and meet new people and get out of your comfort zone.

I took some time to look at myself and not try to compare but to try to understand the way I think about the world as I know it.

Jim sent me this inspiring YouTube video yesterday which sums up the way he thinks. You may have seen this one it’s been around a while. If you haven’t seen it either way take a moment to listen to this guy’s experience.

My admiration for out of the box free thinkers like Jim will help me stay focused and motivated. I hope this video inspires you too.

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