We all have those moments where we throw our hands up and we toss the towel right into the dirty towel bucket. There are occasions where you should quit something, when there’s abuse, harm, or something that causes pain. Quit those things immediately!
But the “Don’t quit” I’m referring to, are things we want to achieve. That’s our desires, our goals, and our interests in things that we want to make our lives better and the lives of others as well. Do what makes your heart sing, don’t quit on something you know you can achieve. Take more risks, you have to in order to progress!
I hope you all go for it, as I was given some nice advice today from: DM Pointless Overthinking Please check out this blog when you have time, the author is very encouraging and engaging with the readers.
I broke up with anxiety and it still tries to visit. But I don’t answer the door anymore.
Anxiety and depression has been something I have struggled with for many years, all starting in my 20’s when I learned that the world was not safe and I was no good. I can’t really tell you where that came from, it could have been the environment I lived in or my belief systems from growing up where I didn’t fit in the world because of basically everything about me was wrong.
Once I reached my 30’s, my perspective about how I perceived myself shifted. There were times where I felt like life was finally getting better. I was growing up allot more and I realized that had more control to figure a way to make life better. Seeking to get outside of my self and be around like minded people. Meditation helped me through as I didn’t want to take pills or antidepressants. I figured I had to try everything to work with Anxiety and get to the root issue of why I was having episodes.
Then my 40’s hit and I was in a time of my life where I was supposed to be blissfully happy when I found out I was pregnant at the ripe young age of 39. The feeling of bliss did occur, although I was sick through the whole thing, puking, nausea, heart burn, gas and acid reflux as the cherry on top. I made it through the 9 months and I was happy to be pregnant and also very happy when my son was born.
Then there was a dark period I will not forget, the experience of getting a c-section and not getting that storybook moment with the baby on your chest for bonding. I remember being cut open and my baby getting checked out and prepped. I remember being disappointed that I couldn’t have him natural.
The feeling of failing as a new mom carried on for almost 10 months. My hormones where out of order due to being drugged up on pain meds and then my body trying to adjust after all of that and being pregnant. Believe me, that was an experience I wish on no one.
I did seek out help and got 2 types of healing, one was a traditional counselor and the other was reiki energetic healing which I still do today. Seeking help got me through some tough times and I am glad I did.
Life does get hard at times no matter how much you try to stay positive. The reality is it’s impossible to feel uplifted and happy all of the time. You will go through tough times, you will experience some form of depression, it is life.
We all have things we wish didn’t happen to us, we all have been through allot of shit one way or another. But for my experiences, growth was necessary and looking back on all the things I thought was horrible was actually a deep learning experience and maybe a soul experience to grow or have a better understanding about myself. I am a good person, great mom, talented, worthy of love, and beautiful.
Now that my son, who is almost 3 and I am thankful I have him in my life and I fight the life battle for him. He will go through many challenges in his life and I will too. But he will know he is never alone and never will be. None of us really are.
When anxiety does try to push it’s way through, I take time to understand the feeling and the issue that’s causing it. Look at it from the outside in and shift the way I perceive that situation our thought. Then I add some music, meditation and a good laugh to feel better.
Thank you for reading my story. I hope this it helps someone. If you need help, seek it. Someone out there really wants to help you.
Do you ever feel inspired in a certain part of the day as if you could do just about anything and you seem to have regained hope for a better road ahead? For me it’s always in the morning after I get up, get ready for work, go out the door as I get into my car and drive off to start my day.
For some reason, I feel like as if I could conquer the world as I take along my confidence in a successful day. As short as the feeling goes throughout the day when the routine of life kicks in, this burst of motivation does help me stay focused and positive.
My mission this week is to continue to explore new possibilities and to push my self a little bit harder in trying something new.
Let’s do this together, think of something you want to try or do something spur of the moment this week that is out of your comfort zone. It could be a simple gesture such as paying it forward someway or try a new food that you are scared to try!
I’ll share my updates with you and if you would like to share please feel free to do so!
Have a great week ahead and what ever you try, have fun with it!
A couple of months after I grabbed a copy of our local magazine called: Las Vegas Woman Magazine, I came across an article about a woman who talked about her story of being adventurous and excited for life only to discover her life became routine and dull to the point that one day she didn’t recognize her self in the mirror and the woman she had become. Life happened and then routine took over which put out the fire her soul
I recommend her story to anyone who has ever felt this way at one point in their life or is currently suffering from lost self and boredom. Find out how she is taking back her life and what she is doing now. You can find her stories here:
If you don’t live in Vegas and are wondering what else you could be doing besides the typical casino walk along the strip, Believe it or not Las Vegas has allot of things to do. One of my favorite venues is First Friday located in the arts district of the city. This event happens…you guessed right, every first Friday of the month.
At First Friday you’ll see local artists and crafters, gourmet food trucks, live music and street performers. It’s a fun time and the atmosphere is very casual. Bring the family, there’s fun for everyone. To learn more about this event and to see better images than the photos I took below 🙂 visit their website at: ffflv.org
We had a great time tonight just being out together and enjoying the city we call home now for 4 years now. Have a great weekend, everyone!
Fear is one of many things we humans all have in common. We have experienced it more than once in our lives and we will without a doubt experience it again. But how we handle our fears depends on the situation presented to us. We do have choices. A choice could be to feel the fear and let it paralyze you to make a decision on something or it can fire you up to take action. Either way, you must decide how to handle what’s presented to you.
Your interpretation of the outcome may be blown way out of proportion because the mind turns on survival mode instinct to retreat from an experience, event or something that may cause harm.
There are many ways to help you overcome fear, here are 3 simple ways I have tried to help with fear.
Take the fear for a walk. Getting outside or taking a walk to put your mind at ease will help you focus on what’s important. Then you can decide how to handle the situation in a better. Don’t fight the fear, feel it and acknowledge it. Then focus on a solution to the problem or make a decision to act on something with a clearer perspective.
Don’t keep it to yourself. When you share your feelings with a trusted friend or family member you will feel so much better to get the worry or fear off of your chest. Talking about it with someone can help you put your situation back in perspective.
Fear it and go for it. If you sit around over analyzing an outcome that hasn’t happened, and most likely won’t, then you have wasted all of your energy worrying about it. Let’s say if your fear really came true, at that moment you will probably react to the outcome much differently than what you pictured in your head. Unless it’s a life or death emergency than by all means feel the fear, but if it’s something you can handle, you will power through it!
I hope these tips helped and remember to do the best you can every day!
“Always, always trust your first gut instincts. If you feel something’s wrong, it usually is.”
Quote by unknown author
Right now at this very moment you may have to make a very important decision about something or someone. You’re not quite sure what is but there’s something about the situation that just doesn’t seem right.
Whether it’s taking a job, or going to an event, or not hanging out with that person who gives off a weird vibe or that you’re just not sure about, you start to think about your issue sometimes overthinking which causes stress and anxiety which doesn’t help you trust yourself.
I was faced with this challenge many times, but for example a recent event for me was whether or not to go to a job interview that I was just not feeling too certain about and that it was not feeling like the right fit for me. It wasn’t a being nervous thing or being scared about the job, it was more of a feeling that I got when I thought about it and how it made me feel about possibly working there.
It’s a large popular company that is very famous here in my town and would look great on my resume. But the feeling I got when I thought about the job, images kept popping up and red flags keep telling me that this is not what you should be doing. As glamorous as it seemed, the only thing that was attracting me to the position was the money. It was really good money.
I ended up going to the interview to see if what I am feeling is just thoughts and overthinking. Once I arrived and went on my way to the interview, I was not too excited to walk in the door, the parking lot area was filled with many cars and parking far didn’t appeal to me. Walking in the door of the building, people were dressed in corporate attire, very quiet int their work and not engaging with each other.
Once I met the person who was going to interview me, I got the vibe that she was a nice person and seemed interested in me and my experience. But when we walked in the room to interview, it felt like the interrogation room you see in police movies, just more brightly lighted and decorated with motivation signs, you usually see in businesses to keep employees feel like they are really doing something miraculous for the company.
After learning more about the job description from the interviewer, I also knew that the position was less attractive than what was posted on the job board. The duties she described seemed mundane and boring. Nothing really creative, although it claimed it was a “creative” position.
After the interview was over, I thanked the interviewer for her time and told her I would think about the position. In my gut feeling I knew she was going to call me back for a second interview. Low and behold a few days later she did, and I wasn’t excited. I knew my gut feeling was working in my favor, it knew that it wasn’t the right fit for me. I would have taken this job and lived with the regret of certain boredom while wearing uncomfortable business casual clothing.
You have built in mechanisms within you that are there working in your favor. Listen and trust yourself by quieting your mind and having a chat with your gut who is your soul’s best spokesperson.
To end this story, I enjoy the company I currently work for, it is much more creative and my version of business casual are wearing jeans and flip flops.
Have you ever experienced listening to your gut instinct about a situation over just relying on your thoughts? Leave a comment, I would enjoy learning about your experiences!