Life is The Short

Listen to that inner voice inside you. You matter to the world, even if the world has no idea who you are, you matter.

Why? Because you are unique, there is no one in this world exactly like you, even if you are a twin. You are similar but very unique.

Remember there will never be another you in this world, do make the most of the little amount of time you have left.

Life will pass before your eyes as it has, and you know this. Look at your life and how it has evolved from the time you came into this world.

Stop and notice the world around you, the real world. There is more to life than whats on your mobile devices.

Let go of worry, life will guarantee to bring you challenges, how you face them will determine where you go from there. Cherish the good times and those wonderful spurts of excitement that come your way.

That is all for this month. Take care.

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Don’t Forget About Your Little Dreams While You Dream Big

I haven’t posted in a while as I took some time off from this blog to play catch up with life and other projects that are on my plate. So I want to take a moment to talk about the things we all could de to appreciate the journey we all are on for inspiration and improving our lives.

When you decide you want to pursue a big dream, you get excited and are ready to take on that goal, you’re focused in the mission to accomplish it and then all of a sudden you’re burned out and have lost your gusto. Well that was me this past week or two since I last blogged.

I realized I needed to take time for my self and go after my small dreams. These dreams consist of easy and obtainable goals. One of my dreams was to go on a shopping trip for a new wallet after work, and just be with myself.

My next dream was to take my son on a early birthday trip to an amusement park and the beach. Mission accomplished, we had a blast!

My little dream this week is to try something new! Just as simple as that.

I call them little dreams because we all think about something we want to do and accomplish. What makes life more fun is to give yourself a to do list of your little dreams and accomplish them as much as possible. Once you practice this, you’ll be surprised of how motivated you will get to continue on your BIG dream. Your mind will be clearer because you’ve raised your energy level to match the energy you need to fulfill your big goal. If for some reason you fall out of love with your big goal, don’t worry just enjoy the journey overall and continue to make little dreams and new big dreams will come true.

Quick Tip: Enjoy The So Little Time

Women laughing friends

There are only 24 hours in a day, 8 or more are spent at work, the next 5 to 6 hours are spent with family or with yourself. If you have school after work then you have less time to go around as your days speed through in a slow pace, because you are waiting for the year to be over so you can finish and graduate.

The next 6 to 8 hours are spent sleeping, well at least you hope. Then there is the morning where you may have 2 hours or less for your self as you get ready to go to work.   There just doesn’t seem to be enough time to do much.

If you find yourself needing more time, I have good and bad news. You’re not going to get more than 24 hours, but you can play with the remaining hours you do have for yourself.

Write down what you do during the hours you have free, make a plan to give yourself at least an hour of no computer and no social media. Fill your extra time with things you really enjoy, like a good book, drinking a cup of coffee or writing a story, listening to music and dancing in your room. What ever you do, enjoy the little time you have left in a day as you should enjoy living the remaining years of your life. Have a great week.

Enjoy the so little time.

Broke Up With Anxiety, Still Tries To Visit On Occasion.

Back and white photo of a man behind a foggy door
Photo by Clem Onojeghuo on Unsplash

I broke up with anxiety and it still tries to visit.
But I don’t answer the door anymore.

Anxiety and depression has been something I have struggled with for many years, all starting in my 20’s when I learned that the world was not safe and I was no good. I can’t really tell you where that came from, it could have been the environment I lived in or my belief systems from growing up where I didn’t fit in the world because of basically everything about me was wrong.

Once I reached my 30’s, my perspective about how I perceived myself shifted. There were times where I felt like life was finally getting better. I was growing up allot more and I realized that had more control to figure a way to make life better. Seeking to get outside of my self and be around like minded people. Meditation helped me through as I didn’t want to take pills or antidepressants. I figured I had to try everything to work with Anxiety and get to the root issue of why I was having episodes.

Then my 40’s hit and I was in a time of my life where I was supposed to be blissfully happy when I found out I was pregnant at the ripe young age of 39. The feeling of bliss did occur, although I was sick through the whole thing, puking, nausea, heart burn, gas and acid reflux as the cherry on top. I made it through the 9 months and I was happy to be pregnant and also very happy when my son was born.

Then there was a dark period I will not forget, the experience of getting a c-section and not getting that storybook moment with the baby on your chest for bonding. I remember being cut open and my baby getting checked out and prepped. I remember being disappointed that I couldn’t have him natural.

The feeling of failing as a new mom carried on for almost 10 months. My hormones where out of order due to being drugged up on pain meds and then my body trying to adjust after all of that and being pregnant. Believe me, that was an experience I wish on no one.

I did seek out help and got 2 types of healing, one was a traditional counselor and the other was reiki energetic healing which I still do today. Seeking help got me through some tough times and I am glad I did.

Life does get hard at times no matter how much you try to stay positive. The reality is it’s impossible to feel uplifted and happy all of the time. You will go through tough times, you will experience some form of depression, it is life.

We all have things we wish didn’t happen to us, we all have been through allot of shit one way or another. But for my experiences, growth was necessary and looking back on all the things I thought was horrible was actually a deep learning experience and maybe a soul experience to grow or have a better understanding about myself. I am a good person, great mom, talented, worthy of love, and beautiful.

Now that my son, who is almost 3 and I am thankful I have him in my life and I fight the life battle for him. He will go through many challenges in his life and I will too. But he will know he is never alone and never will be. None of us really are.

When anxiety does try to push it’s way through, I take time to understand the feeling and the issue that’s causing it. Look at it from the outside in and shift the way I perceive that situation our thought. Then I add some music, meditation and a good laugh to feel better.

Thank you for reading my story. I hope this it helps someone. If you need help, seek it. Someone out there really wants to help you.

Take care and have a great week everyone!

 

 

Motivation Morning Cup of Joe…Decaf

Cup of coffee with the words: What Good Shall I Do This Day?
Photo by Nathan Lemon on Unsplash

 

“Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.”

Do you ever feel inspired in a certain part of the day as if you could do just about anything and you seem to have regained hope for a better road ahead? For me it’s always in the morning after I get up, get ready for work, go out the door as I get into my car and drive off to start my day.

For some reason, I feel like as if I could conquer the world as I take along my confidence in a successful day. As short as the feeling goes throughout the day when the routine of life kicks in, this burst of motivation does help me stay focused and positive.

My mission this week is to continue to explore new possibilities and to push my self a little bit harder in trying something new.

Let’s do this together, think of something you want to try or do something spur of the moment this week that is out of your comfort zone. It could be a simple gesture such as paying it forward someway or try a new food that you are scared to try!

I’ll share my updates with you and if you would like to share please feel free to do so!

Have a great week ahead and what ever you try, have fun with it!

 

3 Steps to Feel The Fear and Move Forward

Valley of Fire Desert scene, quote text

Fear is one of many things we humans all have in common. We have experienced it more than once in our lives and we will without a doubt experience it again. But how we handle our fears depends on the situation presented to us. We do have choices. A choice could be to feel the fear and let it paralyze you to make a decision on something or it can fire you up to take action. Either way, you must decide how to handle what’s presented to you.

Your interpretation of the outcome may be blown way out of proportion because the mind turns on survival mode instinct to retreat from an experience, event or something that may cause harm.

There are many ways to help you overcome fear, here are 3 simple ways I have tried to help with fear.

  1. Take the fear for a walk. Getting outside or taking a walk to put your mind at ease will help you focus on what’s important. Then you can decide how to handle the situation in a better. Don’t fight the fear, feel it and acknowledge it. Then focus on a solution to the problem or make a decision to act on something with a clearer perspective.
  2. Don’t keep it to yourself. When you share your feelings with a trusted friend or family member you will feel so much better to get the worry or fear off of your chest. Talking about it with someone can help you put your situation back in perspective.
  3. Fear it and go for it. If you sit around over analyzing an outcome that hasn’t happened, and most likely won’t, then you have wasted all of your energy worrying about it. Let’s say if your fear really came true, at that moment you will probably react to the outcome much differently than what you pictured in your head. Unless it’s a life or death emergency than by all means feel the fear, but if it’s something you can handle, you will power through it!

 

I hope these tips helped and remember to do the best you can every day!