The Two Homes You Live in

Did you know you have two homes? Most people do. But what do I mean by this? You see, your home is the place where you spend quality time.

Your home has a connection to you. It is where you are surrounded by family, and also friends come over for a visit. It is where you relax, and take time for your self. You may eat breakfast at your first home, that is, if you have time. You spend your evenings there, whether it’s having dinner alone or with your family, this is the place you most likely would rather be. You work at home on weekends and probably week nights, doing chores and upkeep making sure everything is running smooth there. This is your home.

Your other home is the place you rush off to each day. It’s the place where you find yourself dealing with a lot of projects and your “family” are people you may or may not get along with. Your family may have only 5 members in it, or it may have up to 1000 members, most of which you’ll never get to know. There is a parental figure in the house, one or many of them is in charge. You are regulated by their house rules, whether you like it or not.

This house may be a place where you may be free to explore your creativity or it is a place where you are constrained with policies you may not agree with. You may have family meetings that consist of ego and self promotion. Sometimes you get lucky and fall into a home where the environment is encouraging and positive.

You really spend most of your waking hours at this house. This house you may have had to move into based upon fear and desperation driven by money. Or you moved into this home with like-minded individuals who not only encourage you but want to see you succeed. A place where you are rewarded with merit. You may stay for many months, or you may stay there for many years.

Office workers smiling and engaging in front of a laptop

Think about the second home YOU live in. Do you have balance? Do you feel encouraged and cared about? Do you wish you were doing and living something else? Are you working towards building your own foundation for your “Dream Home,” perhaps?

I’m sure you already know what this second home is, this is your employer. This is the place where you make money so you can pay for first home. This is the place where you spend a lot of time around your work family. They are there now, over time the will come and go, you may leave this home or stay where you are, but the choice is yours.

If you are living in your second home and you just don’t feel like it’s a good fit, think about the kind of place you really want to spend most of your time. You are just selling your time for money at this house, is this a place you can really be happy and thrive? Or is this place wearing you down and your sense of well-being has gone away?

Think about this if you are pondering to move out of your second house. How do you want to live? Where do you want to live? Who are the kind of people you want to live with? Do you want to live on your own? Then explore your options. Start building your foundation for a new career path, or a path to entrepreneurship.

Home is where your heart is, and that should also be where you work as well.


10 thoughts on “The Two Homes You Live in

    1. Thank you for your comment! I have over the years try to mold my work life in a way to be an environment where I do feel like I’m in a family and not just a job. I’ve been blessed over the years. I’ve worked with great people, and cut ties to very toxic work places.


  1. I am working in a family business. The people I deal with in the office are the same ones I would deal with too when I get home. It is so hard because sometimes, the conflicts in the office are carried even in the house.
    No matter how I want to help and maintain peace, I am surrounded by ego-centric people who seldom listen. I love them, of course. But it just pains me that we’re making a slow progress toward our goals because only them who are in the higher position than mine can decide. These frustrations are the reason why I find home not in the two homes you mentioned but in other places. Sorry If I suddenly vent out. Fantastic article by the way!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment! I can imagine your situation is extremely difficult due to work and family being the same entity. Do you work with the family business out of obligation? What do you do to cope because it’s hard enough to deal with work issues in itself. I hope circumstances change for you, because your well being is important. Have you though about leaving the business?


      1. Those thoughts were haunting me for countless times because this is not actually something I have studied for. However, I cannot leave our printing business since it’s something that we can call ours. It’s the legacy of my parents too. And as of now, I really want to help it to get even more established. I think I’ll just continue to increase my tolerance and I’ll keep in mind that this is just part of my training for tougher goals in the future!

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      2. That is understandable, i would do the same if I was in your situation. I hope things work out for you and please take some time for yourself to recharge your batteries. And I agree you will be a much stronger person. Wishing you much happiness!

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  2. Thank you for the kind words! That’s exactly the path I will choose–the path to a stronger and better self. I also pray for happiness and abundance in your life. Pls keep on writing and continue sharing wisdom, Miss!

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